Sometimes I am very introspective and get lost in my thoughts. I have been thinking about something and I felt inspired to share. After reading comments on several Facebook pages and other blogs about bloggers and their perfect lives, it started to make me think.
There are times I still find myself being envious of other people, other bloggers especially. I see the vacations they get to take when we as a family have not been on one in years. I see their kids in super cute new clothes all the time when my 3 year old is wearing clothes that my 11 year old wore when he was little (and most of those were hand me down from cousins). I see their clean homes. Not just clean in pictures on their blog (because we all know that was staged for a photo shoot) but also clean in instagram shots. And I look at my messy house and sigh.
And then I thought, what if people think things like that when they read MY blog. I hope not. I try so hard to keep things real over here. I sometimes feel like there isn’t a single thing y’all don’t know about me. Maybe I over share. But I do it so you know that I have struggles too. I have a budget. I have stress. I have messes. I have faults.
I was watering my grass tonight. And it made me think of that cliché saying “The grass is always greener on the other side.” Yes, it is cliché. But there is a reason that it caught on.
We have strict watering restrictions right now due to the drought conditions. I can only water on certain days and only during certain times. My grass is dying. It is patchy and just plain dead in some areas. I drive around my neighborhood and think “They HAVE to be cheating! How can their grass be so green?” But then I came inside and looked out the window. From that vantage point our grass looked so green. It was weird. Even though I KNEW it had patchy areas all over. And then I realized that my neighbors probably have patchy spots too, IF I WERE TO LOOK CLOSELY. That is the key. The perspective.
Those blogs that I read that seem perfect are written by people just like me. Behind that blog is a person with struggles, messes, stress, and faults. Not all bloggers are comfortable sharing every aspect of their lives. Some of them are super private. And after meeting a lot of bloggers in real life I can testify that this is true, first had. I have seen their lives UPCLOSE. I think if you knew what some of them were going through it would blow your mind. For some of them their blog is a retreat where they can share the good things in their life and the pretty things they create.
I guess the point of all my pondering, and for writing this post, is to say – do not compare. There are always going to be people that look like they have it all. That look like they have their crap together. And guess what? Some may be awfully close to having it all or having their crap together. Just like there are probably people in my town who actually have green grass!There will be people who are more talented, have more money, have closer families, or whatever. But if we dwell on that, then we can’t fully appreciate what we have. We can’t appreciate the view of our green grass from the window if we are constantly either standing over our dry spots and complaining or looking out the window to our neighbor’s lawn and being envious.
I wrote this post and then the next day something happened that drove home the point even more…..
My husband lost his job yesterday. His company has been struggling badly and in one last ditch effort to save the company they have let go most of the employees. Any hope we had of taking our kids to Disneyland in the fall are gone now. Whether I can finish the many projects I have started is up in the air. And anything else we were going to do in now in question. It will be hard to get on Facebook and see all the summer vacations posted. But I am going to try to look at them with my new found perspective. I am going to be happy that they get to do those fun things and know that our time will come one day. And I will hope others will be equally happy for me when my day comes.
I hope you all know how much I appreciate you. I hope you know that every comment and every email is GOLD. I feel such a strong sense of community. Maybe that is why I am so comfortable sharing things with you. I wish we could have a big party and all get to meet each other in real life because I would hug the crap out of all of you.
I love you guys. You are amazing.