Being a mother is amazing. Being a mother is hard. Motherhood is an honor I thank my Heavenly Father for daily. So anytime I see negativity towards mothers or motherhood in general it makes me terribly sad. I am not sure if you remember my picture that got stolen awhile back of me and my kids at the store. I wrote about it in a post simply called “Stuff“.
Well, it happened again.
Another picture of me with my children (again staged) was stolen and a caption added and plastered all over FaceBook. (sheesh, why can’t one of my projects get that much attention?)
This is the picture they took:
And the post it was from also had this picture:
The post was called “Mixed Emotions” and was all about how I am so torn when my kids go back to school and how they themselves are torn. I LOVE having my kids home with me and it is hard to let them go each year. But I am excited to have a routine again.
I like the idea of homeschooling. My very best friend homeschoools her kids and I have such respect for her. I have even considered doing it myself. But after a lot of thought, prayer and discussion I feel like sending my kids to school outside of our home is the best option for us. My kids thrive and are happy there.
I didn’t take those comments personally. The comments on the first picture and the comments on the second picture were both horrendous. I cried when I read them but not because I felt attacked personally. They don’t know me. It could have been anyone in that picture and they would have attacked regardless. I cried because of the judgmental comments being thrown in both directions. I cried because it pained me to see women tearing other women down. I am a good mom. Are there things I could do better and improve on? You bet. A ton. But I try my best. I get up every morning and pray that I will do better than yesterday. I have a fantastic relationship with my kids. They tell me everything. We are very open. We say we love each other a dozen or more times a day and hug the crap out of each other all day long. I do activities and crafts with them all the time. I let them help with my DIY projects so they feel included and important. I choose to blog at night when they are sleeping so I am not in front of the computer all day. My kids are my whole world.
Just because we all have different schedules and ways of doing things does not make one right over the other. Me choosing to have 4 kids does not make me crazy. I should not have someone ask me if I know what a condom is. I should not have to explain myself to anyone. If I send them to school I should not have to defend myself. And neither should you. If you home school I applaud you. You have a special ability that I do not.
I love you guys and your support. I wish everyone had the supportive community we have here. I hope some good can come from the ugliness. Maybe someone on Facebook will have a light bulb moment and reflect on what they want to teach their children by the example they set. Are we teaching our children tolerance and love? Are we building each other up? We don’t have to agree on everything. We don’t have to all do things the same way. But we should all treat each other with respect.
Now back to the whole “motherhood is hard” part. It is. And sometimes the only way to get through it is humor. I do not fault anyone who thought my pictures were funny. That is how I intended them to be. All the pictures mention in this post were staged and meant as a lighthearted look into motherhood. I love the funny sayings and cartoons that are out there. They are funny because they are true. But when it gets twisted and motherhood is pictured as something negative it breaks my heart.
I have learned a lesson too. I will not be posting fun posts about me and my kids. Although meant for you and in fun, they are being stolen and taken out of context.
I hope this post did not come off as preachy or anything. I just feel so passionate about being a mother and a woman. And I feel strongly that we are meant to lift each other, serve each other, and help each other along in this life. I love you all so much and hope you have a wonderful week :)