Kicked in the gut…..

Oh man. Yesterday was rotten. My husband called me mid morning to tell me he had been let go. This is the third time in the past 2 years that he has lost his job. And we have maxed out our unemployment benefits so we are hoping he finds something soon.  After the shock of it wore off and after the initial tears dried, I realized that we are lucky. Not that the timing is ever good to loose your job. Especially when you have 6 mouths to feed. But we just did our taxes and will be getting a decent tax return. Imagine if we had spent the tax return on all the things we need to fix up on our house and then got the news?  That would have been awful. At least we found out before any of it was spent.

I am sad though. I think of all my little DIY projects I had planned. I hope this doesn’t affect my blog too much. I will just have to get even more creative I guess!

I know we are not the only family to be affected by this crappy economy. Many of you are in the same (sinking) boat. Fingers crossed for all of us that things get better soon.

I don’t pretend to know what it is like for a man. To have the weight of being the bread winner for the family is bad enough when you have a job, let alone when you don’t . I know it is harder for him than it is for me. When he got home I hugged the crap out of him. And then I started quoting one of my favorite movies,  “You is smart, you is kind…” and he finished it with “you is pretty” and we just started laughing. ( it suppose to be “you is important” but he remembered it wrong. He laughed cause he thought I was going to call him pretty and I laughed cause it was wrong :P )

I am going to take the rest of the week off.  I need to sit down with my hubby and make some plans for the future.  I will be back here Monday.

Love you guys!!!!!!!

 

Comments

  1. says

    Oh, terrible! So sorry to hear that news.

    Does your hubby have a hobby which could become a passion / income earner? Dig deep, you never know what may surprise you.

    You’re all in my thoughts.
    Dani

  2. says

    Wow. That’s terrible, but I’m glad you’re already looking for the silver linings. I’ll pray that he finds a BETTER job soon. I think it’s amazing that you were already in encouragement mode by the time he got home. Great job! I know you’ll be fine. Better than fine!

  3. says

    That’s frustrating and unnerving. My neighbor just went through this and finally after multiple job changes, he as found the one that will stick. My thoughts and prayers are with you as you tackle this.

  4. says

    Way to stay positive Stacy. I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. And while I’m not super religious I read this a while back and whenever things get tough it always comes to mind:

    “If GOD brings you to it, HE will bring you through it.”

    I see good things coming your way.

  5. says

    I am so very sorry. I do know that the hardest things we go through can make us the strongest. We may not ever understand but holding onto hope is essential. Love on that family of yours and count your blessings!

  6. says

    So sorry to hear, but stay strong, when I door closes another one opens. I am not one to pray but I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and that even if right now you can’t see it, one day it will reveal itself to you. I know how hard it is to stay positive when life throws you a curve ball, my daughter was diagnosed with juvenil diebeties 2 weeks ago and I am still struggling to understand why. I just try to focus on the positive and know that something positive can come from this experience. Keeping you in my thoughts.

  7. says

    What an inspiring response to an unfortunate situation! I’m so sorry this happened to your family, and I hope things look up soon. Good for you for taking some time away to regroup. Best wishes, Anne

  8. Robbie says

    I will be thinking about you and your family and praying for a new job with wonderful pay and benefits happen very, very quickly.

  9. says

    So sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best in the days and weeks ahead. I know it is never easy to hang your hat on anything in a situation like this but I always believe that things happen for a reason and that another, better, door will be opening soon. In the meantime, love your family, lift up your husband and keep the faith. Reach out to your blog friends for help with your blog if you need the time. Take care.

    Shari

  10. says

    So sorry to hear about your husband losing his job. It is a tough economy out there for many. Praying for you guys that he finds something soon. Just lift your troubles up to the LORD and he will provide. Take some time to figure things out, we will be here when you return.

  11. says

    I am sorry you are having to go through this again. It is so frustrating. At least you are able to find the silver lining in a really messy situation. Prayers that he will find something else soon…something even better than the last!

  12. says

    This is such a hard thing to go through — so sorry your family is experiencing it again. Praying that your husband will find something soon. Take care. – Suzanne

  13. Stacey says

    I am so sorry, we have been there ourselves and know the “kicked in the gut” feeling all too well. You have a wonderful outlook that will undoubtably help get you through this! You all are in my prayers. Stacey S.

  14. says

    Stacy I am so sorry! You are incredible and I’m sure your husband is as well. Sending you lots of love and well wishes to find a job!!! I will click on your site a hundred times a day to raise your CPMs. XOXOXO

  15. says

    Hang in there and try to remember that God has a plan for you. Having no money for projects means getting creative. Praying for you and your family that good things come your way.

  16. says

  17. says

    I’m so sorry to hear this. Your family is in my prayers. God has you in his hands and is guiding your future. We’ve been through a similar rough patch recently and we’re starting to come out of it. I’m realizing that while we dont know the reasons for everything, I’m learning that His plans are greater than ours.

  18. says

    So sorry to hear. What type of work is it that your husband does? In this day and age I think it is all about who you know….maybe someone in blog land has a connection? Things will fall into place, pray hard.

  19. Karina says

    So sorry to hear this, it’ll all work out. I just maxed my Unemployment and now we’re onto 1 income and me desperately trying to find a job,…it’s hard but we have to keep looking for that silver lining. *hugs*

  20. says

    I am so sorry to hear about that. :( You have a good attitude though, and the fact that you can hug each other AND laugh–That’s amazing! That says a lot about you two. Best of luck, prayers your way.

    ps. I LOVE The Help! But then again, who doesn’t, right?

  21. says

    You will all be on our thoughts and prayers! The economy went south here in Montana in 2009 & my husband did odd jobs and seasonal work until he finally found a job last fall. Even now he works two weeks gone and one week home…it’s hard but we are thankful for the work!

  22. says

    Hmmm, the Help, and you definitely need that. Sending prayers your way…Keep your chin up, sometimes the best rainbows are found in adversity. Does that make sense?

  23. says

    Now might be the time to focus even more on your blog. You have a great readership and your hosting parties generate so much traffic. Promote yourself to more sponsors. Seek them and grow “your own business” so when tough times hit, the wave is a little easier to ride out. YOU can do it!

  24. Tam says

    What does he do? Do you live in Utah? Near SL? Some jobs might be open that I know of. Email me if you want.

    Hang in there….sometimes it through those hard times that we see our blessings! You are an amazing person that always seems so cheerful. Look for the positive – it will be there. HUGS

  25. says

    All this means is that there is something bigger and better out there for him! Be strong, and remember that you will never be given more than you can handle!

    My husband was laid off 3 years ago, and we have 3 little ones too. I actually turned to couponing like never before, and it saved us a TON! Now that he is working, i don’t need to coupon, but I am still frugal as ever!

  26. says

    I am so sorry your husband lost his job, it seems to be happening all around us. My husband lost his job of 30 years a couple of years ago. He was able to get a couple of part time temporary jobs but nothing permanent. We were both fortunate enough to be eligible for Social Security so that is a God send and we have been making it on that for the past year. Life is getting hard for so many, just keep relying on the Lord, He always finds a way for us through the storm.

  27. says

    Joining the masses in telling you how sorry I am. Glad you’re taking a break to hug your man and make some plans. Hoping this is a short-lived problem. Praying for a swift resolution!

  28. says

    Stacy, I found myself in this same boat just after Thanksgiving (I know, great timing!). But I found out on Monday that I got a new position I was vying for. I hope your family finds the same good luck. When one door closes, another will open.

    I’m sending good thoughts!

  29. says

    Isn’t that the luck! It always seemed that when we just got our tax return that the car would break down or something in the house needed to be fixed and all my projects were put on hold again. Seriously, I wish the best for your family and hope that your husband will find work soon. We’ve been in your shoes and it’s scary when you come to a “dead” end, but you both are approaching it with a good attitude. That’s 90% of the battle. Good luck!

  30. Connie Haack says

    My husband lost his job two years ago. He was getting a very good salary at the time. I work full time and was able to pick up the insurance but the decrease in income was going to be a big burden! I then read on a blog about how she made money on ebay. I had done ebay a few years before …So I started selling again. We made it through the tough times, learned to live frugally and now that he has a new job, we continue to live the frugal way. I still sell on ebay and enjoy it. And Life is Good.

  31. says

    Hang in there Girl. You guys will make it through these times, just stick together and turn to our Heavenly Father. I wish there was more I could say or do. But we’ll remember you in our prayers.
    Hugs, Becca

  32. says

    Stacy, I am so sorry to hear your news. I will be praying for you guys to find peace and to find comfort in your new situation. I love how you greeted him at the door and your sweet exchange. (just brought me to tears) That is what it is all about. Love and prayer will get you through anything! Big hugs to you!

  33. says

    That is so awful! I’m super sorry! I hope he finds something else again super quick…I know he must appreciate having such a supportive wife!

  34. says

    ugh I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this :( We’re going through so many “scares” of that too…after putting my husband through grad. school for the past 3 years, he FINALLY got a full-time job, and now it’s being threatened as well :( I hate this economy!! I love your positive attitude though :) Keep it up…we’re here for you!!

  35. says

    Words can’t describe what a horrible feeling that is but I’m glad you are able to smile through it. It is so tough and you are right that this economy sucks! I will pray that everything works out well for you all soon!

  36. says

    Oh Stacey I’m so sorry. My hubby lost his job just after our first child was born and I was not working either and we had just bought a house. It was a horrible feeling. Hubby had a few temp jobs until he was offered the opportunity to work in IT from home and has been able to watch his 2 kids grow and we all love having him around. When the bills get too high and we are hit with a run of bad luck I just look at all the things we do have and people we have in our lives and I know I am blessed, whatever life throws at us. And yes, it does make you a lot thriftier. :) Keep your chin up. Remember its not the end, but the beginning of new opportunities. And most time a change is good. x Julie

  37. Amy says

    “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming. What do we do, we swim, swim”. (((HUGS))) <3

  38. says

    oh crap Stacy – that’s horrible. thinking of you guys – and hoping something comes up really soon. sending loads of good luck vibes from down here. C xxx

  39. says

    That is such a terrible, horrible, no-good very bad day to lose your job. We’ve been through it twice–it stinks! Please email me and let me know what kind of work he does. You are in Utah, right? We have a lot of contacts and would love to help if possible.

  40. says

    So sorry about your husband’s job. I lost 3 jobs in 5 years, but I didn’t have the support of a spouse to give me a big hug. What does he do for a living? I wish you both the best and with you supporting each other thru the tough time I am sure things will come out great.

  41. says

    So sorry to hear your news – getting laid off is the worst. I wish to the best for you both and hope your husband is able to find something quickly. In the mean time, enjoy the extra time together.

  42. Isabelle says

    I’m so sorry to hear your news… We’ll be praying for you and your familiy and wishing for your hubs to find a job real soon. Take all the time off you want and need, we’ll still be there… Luv from Canada! <3

  43. says

    Stacy, I am sorry to hear the news of your husband’s job. We have been there a few times as well. The longest stretch we had was 11 months and it was horrible. I went to work to help us get by, but it was still so hard to make it. I think your blog is great so I am sure you married a creative man as well who will find another job soon! I will be thinking of you and your family.

    Take Care,
    Stacie

  44. says

    So sorry. I have friends, he’s got a builder background. He lost that when the company he’d worked at for many years folded when everything else did. He got a job at HOME DEPOT!! It wouldn’t be what your hubs made any more than it was what he made, but something. And benefits. And they know you… just a thought. His wife, my gf, is a substance abuse counselor and with cutbacks has lost 3 jobs in that time. She’s also an author, public speaker, educator, but no one has funds to pay her either. Good luck to all of you.
    Janet

  45. says

    I know the feeling. Five years ago my husband lost his job of 16 years, so that is how I ended-up in my current job (it was closer to home and paid a lot more) because we weren’t sure how long his job search would take.

    His job along with several hundered others at his company were lost due to corporate greed sending jobs overseas.

    Positive note – he is now working for a family owned company that truly cares about their employees and has been voted as one of the top 100 places to work in the Dallas / Ft. Worth area!

  46. says

    I’m sorry to hear about your husband and the situation it puts your family in. It’s a rough economy out there and it seems like there are NO good jobs left. My husband is self employed and it seems like when we are struggling the most (he is in school full time, working, I have thyroid cancer) something else happens like last weekend our only car that fits my entire family decides to blow up and we have to borrow money from his parents. Life is so hard sometimes, but I always feel like Heavenly Father is trying to teach us some sort of lesson. So hopefully one day you can look back and see the things you do have and realize hey we made it! Best of luck hope he can find a good reliable job :)

  47. says

    Love you for keeping your spirit, Stacey!
    I’ve been through a war, had a baby, no money and no idea when any would come in. Far away from my husband…
    Everything comes and goes. And we stay. Stronger. More grateful.
    Better people, I guess…
    The love in your home is most precious.

    Praying for you guys.

  48. says

    Wow Stacy, what a tough situation. And even as I write that I realize that tough doesn’t begin to describe it. I am so sorry for you and for all of the commenters who have said they are in the same boat. I admire your positive attitude and I hope you can feel the love and encouragement surrounding you from this bloggy community.

  49. says

    I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope your husband is able to find something quickly! I know the stress of providing for a family can be overwhelming even when a job is present. I can’t imagine trying to do it working with a very limited income due to unemployment.
    Hugs to you.

  50. Sherri says

    Hang in there! I know everyone is saying the same thing, because we have all been there, or know someone who has. Bad things sometimes happen to really good people, but things do turn around. Your support will make a difference!

  51. says

    Hang in there. Yes, this will make you creative in many ways, but you have a good attitude and that will make all the difference. My hubby lost his job three days before Christmas. Sigh. It has not been easy, but I have been blessed with a boss that cares and he has broken a rule to let me teach extra classes. I am stretched thin, but it will be okay. ~Kelly

    unDeniably Domestic

  52. says

    I’m so sorry. We’ve been down that road four times in our life together and it’s always so hard, especially those first few days when you’re still in shock mode. Praying that this time will be a blessing for you and that your husband will quickly find a great new job.

  53. Jen says

    I’m in the same boat…husband lost his job last month. We keep trying to look at it as a positive – something better to come. Fingers and toes crossed that things will work out for the best for you!

  54. Candice says

    Stacy, I’m so sorry! I understand your heartache so well. My husband has been unemployed since he graduated with his MBA a year and a half ago. I’ve had quite a few heart to heart chats with God over the whole ordeal. I will definitely keep you and your family in our prayers.

    Candice (Shane’s cousin)

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