I am tired of being the “mean” one. I make the kids do their homework, I make them do their jobs, I break up fights, I send them to time out, I take away privileges, I threaten, I make them hug when they are mean to each other, I make them clean their room (everyday), etc. I think you get the idea. And my husband? He comes home from work and wrestles and plays with them until it is time to go to bed. So in an effort to be considered some what fun and nice I instituted a new tradition that my kids have named their “special day”. Every Saturday I take one of the kids and we do some activity of their choice. The only stipulation is that is can’t cost a lot of money. We spend part of the day having some quality one on one time. We have been doing this for several months now and I have to say I think it has improved my relationship with my kids. Some of the things we have done are: ice cream cones at McDonald’s, the park, Salem pond, picnics, going up the canyon, visiting the “cowboy” store (Cal-Ranch), a trip to the local garden center, and catching butterflies with a butterfly net in the fields by Grandma’s house. My oldest boy is the first, then we take turns down the line. Pretty much whatever my oldest picks to do the others want to do for their day. So I have done some of those things 3 times! It takes an effort to remember and to set aside the time to do it. But I would highly recommend it. I am still primarily the mean one, but at least now they know I CAN be fun!